Turning toward a minimalist lifestyle has brought so many good things into my life: less stress, less mess, more savings, and most importantly, more energy put toward how I actually want to spend my days. Rather than keeping up with the Jones’ (not like I ever did anyway), I’m finding that life is way better when you just pay attention to what brings YOU joy. What a concept, right? I know, mind b l o w n.
You have heard about these kinds of people. The ones who’ve found a way to live life differently, far from the blueprint of what society tells them is the right way. These are the people who always seem to be exploring the world, the ones you ask how they do it, where they make their money
For some of us, wanderlust is as much of a relationship requirement as anything else. While traveling with your partner can be incredibly connecting, it almost always presents challenges that you’ll need to face together. And for couples and families who make travel a regular (or even full-time) endeavour, finding a way to manage the inevitable hiccups is key to maintaining a healthy and happy relationship.
If you are anything like me, you grew up with a lot of expectations: How to be a good girl. How to be a good student. How to be a good parent. How to be a good employee. Sound familiar? And while these expectations can be a bit (or a lot) stifling and narrow, they can also be motivating and helpful in the right context, particular in the work-world.
In this day of mass consumer marketing and more factory-made plastic toys than you could even fathom, it’s no wonder families are getting bogged down with stuff rather than appreciating the simplicity that childhood offers.
But what I see as the bigger problem is that parents are losing confidence with how to engage their kids in simple, creative, and healthy play without TV, gadgets, or other highly-marketed mainstream toys
We had talked about blowing it all up for a long time. I’m talking years. “What would it be like if I just quit?” my husband would say after a run of stupid-long days and feeling like his work was never done, nor good enough. I usually said something slightly dishonest like, “Just do it then! I totally support you walking out tomorrow!”
But there was a part of me that could only say that knowing he wouldn’t actually take the leap.
I have to admit it. It has been a little bit lonely since my husband and I decided to pack it up, sell everything, and live as a traveling family. By no means are we alone, that’s for sure. We are currently living in Guanajuato, Mexico, right in the historical centre where there is a constant buzz day and night. I am hardly by myself.
And even if I was living in the middle of nowhere, I still wouldn’t be alone. I mean, any work-from-home parent who has 2 toddlers milling about all day would hardly feel lonely. Maybe more like maxed out.
You probably hear the same thing time and time again: kids need structure and routine. But you know this, right? You’re a parent … you have probably felt the chaos that ensues when you throw your schedule out the window. It doesn’t take a developmental psychologist to know that children thrive on consistency. In their world, consistency = predictability = comfort = safety.
How much do we need to grind up against challenges, big or small, before we accept that we may need to make a change? How is it that this sense of needing to stick-it-out, endure, maybe even prove oneself in some way can creep in to the way we make our decisions?
As a newly-nomadic family, we are learning. A lot. And the lesson del dia seems to be about knowing when to stick-it-out and when to pull the shoot. And most importantly – how can we accept ourselves and our preferences without judgement?
After ditching our traditional life in Canada, we are feeling the tension between what we believed to be comfortable at home compared to what we can expect to find here in Mexico. What is reasonable to expect? Where do my expectations even come from? Are they my own, or have I just unknowingly swallowed consumerist ideas of what a home is supposed to be?